In "The Un Guide to Dating," a he said/she said look at adult dating relationships, authors Camerin Courtney and Todd Hertz discuss why the temptations – and dangers – of dating non-Christians are very real. Todd: My friend Steve isn’t a Christian, so I was surprised when he introduced me to his new girlfriend: a committed member of my church. There, with members of my Bible study, a friend and I quizzed our fellow member Emily about the guy she was spending more and more time with. Emily assured us he was a “really great guy” and that we needn’t worry since they were “just friends.” Well, three months later these “just friends” were dating.

At a friend’s wedding, I spied him in his dark suit and preppy glasses and was internally gleeful when I noticed later that he wasn’t wearing a wedding ring.

I quickly put together that he was a friend of some friends of mine and was pleased when he sat down next to me at the reception.

Sitting there in the church basement with friends and family, I enjoyed chatting with this funny, talkative, well-dressed man.

And not long after that, her attendance at our study became irregular.

If I didn’t know the dangers of dating a non-Christian already, Emily’s story only underscored how tricky it can be.

What was most difficult to understand was how Emily, a strong Christian, could fall for such an obvious, easy-to-avoid temptation.

Eight years later, during a year-and-a-half dating drought, the situation didn’t seem quite so simple anymore – especially with Mr. It was ironic that I met this guy, Jake, at a church.

Plus, in daily life, most Christians will come across far more non-Christian dating potentials than devoted Christian ones.

And, in a way, it may even be logical with all the confusion and droughts we’ve talked about.

The temptation to date non-Christians is very real.

A couple months after that, Emily stopped going to church.